In many relationships, our exes may seem to be the constant source of conflict. But as a couple, these two individuals are very different. While you may have heard the term “communication break down” many times in your relationship, I think it is a pretty harsh label to place on two people who have been through so much as to be almost opposites.
Communication breakdown happens when two people can’t agree on a course of action, or when one or both of them is unwilling to communicate. As a couple, the two of you need to be able to talk to each other. Our relationship wasn’t always this way; we were always able to communicate with each other. But now? Well, things are different.
While having a very clear understanding about how we are going to communicate is important, sometimes, the actions we take are less clear. If, for example, one is constantly being bombarded with text messages, and the other doesn’t respond to them, then people tend to assume the other is ignoring them, instead of figuring out why they are ignoring them.
We have had problems with this before, but this is probably the most severe yet. We had been exchanging texts for months at first but stopped in January. We got into a fight, and since we didnt know why, we both assumed it was because one of us was ignoring the other. So we texted one another, and soon a new topic came up. Our relationship wasnt working.
Thats when we decided to tell each other why we were ignoring each other. We realized that we didnt know why we were ignoring each other. We were just ignoring each other. And this is the crux of it. When we dont know why we are ignoring each other, we also dont know what to do about it. We also dont know that we dont need to keep ignoring each other. We have to figure it out and solve this problem.
Why are you pretending to be a good person? We have a lot in common, but we are not perfect.
In the movie “We Are The Quasimodo” (see what I did there?) our best friend Quasimodo is told that he’s not as good as his two brothers. He is given a choice. He can go to the party and party and party and party and party. Or he can come home and go to bed. And that is what he does. He goes to the party and party and party and party and party. And that is what we do as well.
In the movie the whole thing is set up so that all the characters are playing the game. You can actually see them doing that from the beginning. I haven’t watched the movie in a while so I’m not sure how I missed that. But there is the whole thing about Quasimodo playing a game. It seems to be about a character who is supposed to be good but is really not. Quasimodo is the ultimate example of that.
In our movie, Quasimodo is trying to kill us. He is the only character who hasn’t played the game. That was the whole point of the movie, to show that he is on the island with the other characters but has no idea what’s going on at the party. I’ve noticed this pattern before where characters in movies end up doing things that seem to make sense but then we see it through the lens of the movie.
Maybe he thinks he can get away with it. Maybe he has no idea what’s going on. It could be something else. But for the most part, Quasimodo is a jerk. He is extremely passive-aggressive. And as a result, we don’t like him.